Learning to Observe Thoughts

Learning to Observe Thoughts

One of the foundations of inner peace for me is realizing that I am not my thoughts. In order to do that, though—and this is pretty much the core of everything I practice and write about—I had to learn to observe my thoughts, to recognize that the thoughts exist on...
My Word for 2017: Allow

My Word for 2017: Allow

I don’t have any particular New Year’s traditions any more. Through my 20s and 30s, I grew tired of resolutions, then commitments and goals—all things that ultimately made me feel bad about myself (usually within about six weeks). In my early 40s, I...
Widening Our Circles of Compassion

Widening Our Circles of Compassion

“From a spiritual perspective, it’s never right to hate someone, and it’s never wrong to love someone.”  —Professor john a. powell,  Director, Haas Institute for a Fair and Inclusive Society, Otherness and Belonging (Wisdom 2.0 2016)  For more...
6 Benefits of Slowing Down

6 Benefits of Slowing Down

It seems to be an accepted part of 21st-century life that life demands more and more of us, that busyness, super-busyness, or the apt phrase crazy-busyness, is the norm.  Yet many of us are discovering that busyness is unsustainable, and memes are popping up...
Coping with Really Big Challenges

Coping with Really Big Challenges

I started Living the Mess because it made me feel better to write about practices that helped me in difficult times; something about writing them out “anchored” them in me. And then it turned out, those posts helped other people, too. Then life got comfortable for a...
50 Thoughts on Turning 50

50 Thoughts on Turning 50

On the last day of my 40s, I’m writing a list of things I’ve learned so far. (I know, it’s not exactly original, but it is mine.) Without children, a marriage or a traditional career milestones, this birthday has snuck up on me. In some ways, I feel...
An Open Letter to Those Going off Medication

An Open Letter to Those Going off Medication

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” —Anaïs Nin Recently, I’ve been seeing more and more stories / posts / tweets by people in the process of withdrawing from medication. These have brought...
Music as a Teaching

Music as a Teaching

I love music—who doesn’t?—yet it had never occurred to me that music itself could be a teaching, that it could bring people to the place, the experience, that spiritual teachers’ words point to, the transcendence that’s sometimes found in meditation (and often isn’t)....
Mindfulness and the MRI

Mindfulness and the MRI

Note: A friend expressed concern and mentioned that, in the U.S., people only have MRIs if something is seriously wrong. In Canada, MRI is sometimes used in place of other screening technologies; this was just a checkup. Ok, I admit, this is a bit of a departure from...

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