Cultivating Inner and Outer Silence

Cultivating Inner and Outer Silence

If you’re like me, you cringe at sudden loud noises—the sudden roar of a motorcycle gearing up, firecrackers, a cannon blasting (just me? I live in a town that fires a cannon every day at noon. It’s a tourism thing.) Years ago, I lived in New York, which is pretty...
Learning to Observe Thoughts

Learning to Observe Thoughts

One of the foundations of inner peace for me is realizing that I am not my thoughts. In order to do that, though—and this is pretty much the core of everything I practice and write about—I had to learn to observe my thoughts, to recognize that the thoughts exist on...
My Word for 2017: Allow

My Word for 2017: Allow

I don’t have any particular New Year’s traditions any more. Through my 20s and 30s, I grew tired of resolutions, then commitments and goals—all things that ultimately made me feel bad about myself (usually within about six weeks). In my early 40s, I...
Widening Our Circles of Compassion

Widening Our Circles of Compassion

“From a spiritual perspective, it’s never right to hate someone, and it’s never wrong to love someone.”  —Professor john a. powell,  Director, Haas Institute for a Fair and Inclusive Society, Otherness and Belonging (Wisdom 2.0 2016)  For more...
6 Benefits of Slowing Down

6 Benefits of Slowing Down

It seems to be an accepted part of 21st-century life that life demands more and more of us, that busyness, super-busyness, or the apt phrase crazy-busyness, is the norm.  Yet many of us are discovering that busyness is unsustainable, and memes are popping up...
Coping with Really Big Challenges

Coping with Really Big Challenges

I started Living the Mess because it made me feel better to write about practices that helped me in difficult times; something about writing them out “anchored” them in me. And then it turned out, those posts helped other people, too. Then life got comfortable for a...

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