Everyone Has a Story. See the Human.

One thing that being a writer teaches you: Everyone has a backstory. Everyone is on their own Hero’s Journey. You are the protagonist of your story, but you’re a supporting-to-background character in others’. Understand, as Buddhists say, that everyone you meet is struggling with something you’ll never know about, and everyone is doing the very best they can in a given moment.

Yet how often do we take time to see the human? People rush through coffee shops, bank lines, grocery checkouts and flight queues, dismissing or ignoring the humans around them.

The barista who made your chai latte this morning? Her father is in the hospital. The mechanic who was gruff with you? His wife walked out on him last week. See the whole person, not just their value to you.

When we don’t see the human, when we treat another person as a faceless noun, rather than a fellow being, with unique feelings, experiences, strengths and challenges, it’s easier to dismiss them as Other, as “not me.” That Othering, in turn, makes it easy to judge, to distance ourselves, to treat them poorly simply because we perceive to be representative of a collective noun – like “the homeless” or “the 1%” – rather than an individual.

Every person in the world, from Tim Cook to the homeless guy on the corner, has a need to feel respected and valued. And as human beings sharing this planet, we also have that right.


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Sarah Chauncey

For more than two decades, I struggled multiple treatment-resistant mood disorders. I spent more than 20 years in psychodynamic therapy and tried 18 different medications. In 2010, I began searching for ways to rewire my brain naturally for inner peace. I write about the practices and insights that have improved my mental, physical and spiritual health.

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  1. Labels are for Jars - Living the Mess on March 7, 2017 at 4:43 pm

    […] when we remove labels from others—whether we interpret labels as positive or negative—we’re able to see their humanity more clearly. We’re not looking through a filtered lens, but at the person, just as they are in the […]

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