Five Ways to Find Calm When Your World is On Fire

By Sarah Chauncey | January 8, 2021

This post contains affiliate links. If you purchase an item, I may receive a small commission. As I write this, most of us in North America are reeling from the events of the past 48 hours (and worldwide, reeling from the past year). Americans, in particular, are facing uncertainty and confusion that I don’t believe…

Looking for the Light at the End of the 2020 Tunnel

By Sarah Chauncey | December 30, 2020

In my 30s, I began making commitments instead of resolutions, because I could see that making a “resolution” was setting myself up to fail (and therefore, feel bad about myself). Then I began setting intentions. That worked a bit better, though I quickly learned that I can set all the intentions I want, but life might have other plans. A few years ago, I stumbled across a post about someone choosing a guiding word for the year, and that really resonated with me…

Recovering from Post-viral Fatigue Syndrome

By Sarah Chauncey | February 20, 2020

My doctor didn’t think I would recover from post-viral fatigue syndrome. I did. Here’s what happened and what helped me.

Reflecting on a Year of Change

By Sarah Chauncey | December 22, 2018

It’s been 18 months since I last posted, yet Living the Mess has been on my mind every day. While I haven’t been writing posts for this site, as a friend pointed out, I have been living the mess and so experiencing source material for future posts. It didn’t seem right to jump back into…

Five Mindfulness Lessons Learned from Moving

Five Mindfulness Lessons from Moving

By Sarah Chauncey | August 26, 2017

Moving is, by definition, massive change. It may not be possible to have a move that isn’t complex, but it can be (almost) stress-free.

Leaning into Fear and Uncertainty

By Sarah Chauncey | June 12, 2017

Renting is a good lesson in stewardship: Nothing is truly ours; we just have responsibility for things for a little while.

We Don’t Know Anything, Really

By Sarah Chauncey | March 27, 2017

None of us really knows what we’re talking about. Not me, not you, not anybody else. I mean, we know some relative things about living on this planet, but in the big picture, the absolute? Nothing.  We live in a culture where there’s a premium on having the answers. We hold in high esteem those…

The Lifespan of an Emotion

By Sarah Chauncey | March 6, 2017

In neuroscientist Jill Bolte-Taylor’s memoir, My Stroke of Insight, she notes that the physiological lifespan of an emotion in the body and brain is 90 seconds. The sensations—adrenalin, heat in the face, tightness in the throat, rapid heartbeat—arise, peak and dissipate on their own. When was the last time you experienced an emotion for only…

Separating Facts from Stories

By Sarah Chauncey | March 5, 2017

We humans are story-making machines. Yet our minds don’t limit story-making to those times when it’s helpful for us. We all tell ourselves and others stories all the time. Often, those stories create pain—and they’re not rooted in fact.

Snowstorm as a Metaphor

By Sarah Chauncey | February 10, 2017

The accumulated snow from the past two weeks finally began melting today, as temperatures moved slightly above freezing for the first time in…what seems like a very long time. As I was walking, I passed the juniper bush in the photo above. It’s right around the corner from my apartment, and I pass by it at…